If at first you don’t get through, Try reframing!
Communication is always a difficult task. The mission of getting an idea safely from my head to yours encounters many obstacles along the way. The clarity of the idea in my head might be affected by unseen pressures or my tired body and irritable attitude. Receiving the idea clearly into your mind might be affected by what you think about me from past efforts to hear. And just because my day is high-energy and happy doesn’t mean that yours is!
One obstacle we all face is the drive to get people to agree with our ideas. On both sides, the mind-set most often derailing meaningful communication is the determination to push for agreement, not just understanding. One skill that has proven helpful in increasing the quantity and quality of agreeableness in your communication efforts is called reframing. Read more →